You can’t control everything that you’ve planned
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Hi Jeffrey,
That’s a great realization! I also sometimes feel like I push myself too much and end up feeling burned out when I should’ve taken some time to relax and take care of myself or taken it easier.
But how do you differentiate between wimping out/being lazy before reaching the goal vs actually needing the slower pace/taking a break to recharge?
Jeffrey! So happy to see you in the Community and LOVE your point. Congrats on the successful race!
Your point is huge: about the only thing that you are ASSURED is that… things will not work out exactly as you thought they would. Curious:
– How did you deal with the psychology / disappointment of fearing your goal might not be reached? Think that mindset is SO important; and
– What are you current goals with running / racing?
HA! This hits home. A funny anecdote about control. I’ve had the link to Mark’s Life Success Engine for a long minute. I’d come and check it out, but I couldn’t figure out how to interact. And instead of asking Mark, which ya know derp!, I stewed about how I couldn’t make it work. Anxiety ratched up and then that stupid voice that tells me I’m too stupid for this shit showed up. UGH! Then Mark sent me a message and another link and voila! it worked. So really, my need for control had me missing out on a good thing. I think we call this a work in progress. BUT, instead of feeling stupid for not reaching out to Mark, I came here today and interacted. Whew!
Stephreid67! You can’t imagine (or maybe you can) the smile on my face when I logged in today and saw your name 😀 Fun, fun, fun to see you here.
Have been talking with Odmaa about this topic, too: control. She’s working on a HUGE goal for herself, Green Card application. She’s been hugely stressing out about it. I was trying to understand why it was causing such anxiety in her, then realized there was a disjunct: all this time she’s been visualizing it as a “product” goal, something to hurry up and finish.
Knowing the size and complexity of the goal I’d always visualized it as a *PROCESS* goal: it’s one of those goals that’s so large and has enough of it OUT of your control that… the best you can do is start at “A”, proceed to “B” and work your way through the maze, until you finally get to “Z.”
But SUPER hard to let go of control when we are working on a goal that means so much to us.
Loving your point, Jeffrey about letting go of control. Thanks for kicking this discussion off.
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